A daughter’s outdooring – a vision of womanhood

Do not forsake wisdom, and she will protect you;
love her, and she will watch over you.
The beginning of wisdom is this: Get wisdom.
Though it cost all you have, get understanding.
Cherish her, and she will exalt you;
embrace her, and she will honor you.
~Proverbs 4:6-8

Many coming of age ceremonies are woven into the fabric of the culture. The Jewish Bat Mitzvah, the Chinese Ji Li, the Mexican Quinceañera, to name a few.  Despite the variation of rites of passage, the base element is recognizing and affirming that a child is ready to become an adult, as if adulthood is the goal and the gain.

I consider my options for such a celebration for my daughters in their late adolescence – when and how might they be encouraged and equipped to cross the line into womanhood.  Continue reading “A daughter’s outdooring – a vision of womanhood”

A daughter’s outdooring – making space

It was a hypothesis, an idea to counter the current cultural confusion.

Adolescent girls are wondering where they belong. It is normal procedure for moving out into the world on your own. When you prepare to leave, you look to what you might cleave.

In this peak identity-forming season, our girls are turning to the junk values of our culture. They are following the loudest messages – the ones they’ve been immersed in their whole lives – that would reduce them, bottle them and sell them.

Where is the alternate message – one of truth and wisdom – to give them a choice and a chance? Where are the voices that would value them, equip them and unleash them?

If they exist (and we are certain they do), our daughters may not hear them above the din.

So let’s consider how we might give that message and those voices the microphone. How might we make space for wisdom so that our young women can hear it?

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